HOW TO HEAL FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA

Many people suffer from betrayal trauma without an inclination of what it is. Betrayal trauma is likened to when a person you are significantly attached to, doesn’t only betray your trust but also lets you down in a critical way. People who experience the trauma of sexual betrayal usually go through a period where they want to ask the betrayer questions related to the betrayal, like where, when, how and why. These questions are usually associated with the betrayed partner going through emotional distress and desperately trying to seek safety. Which ultimately results in the need to find the truth after a break in trust.

STEPS TO HEAL FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA

·         Do not blindly blame yourself

Avoid criticizing yourself unfairly as well as attribute all faults to yourself for the reason of break in trust between you and your partner, spouse, friend or family. Never compromise your integrity, and don’t blame yourself for the person you are and the person you believe you can be.

·         Avoid rebound relationships

Immediately entering a new relationship to try and numb the pain is never the best move. Do not rush to replace the loss and avoid every form of temptation to numb the pain. It is necessary for you to evaluate how the events unfolded, so taking alone time is not a bad thing.

·         Consider things in the relationship that you would have done differently

Avoid blaming yourself, however it is essential for you to think back on your relationship to consider things you may have handled differently.

·         Focus on achieving success

It will help if you put more focus and effort into building yourself as a person, as well as increase your self-confidence. Get yourself involved in activities where you can be successful. Start small and see where it goes from there.

·         Pay more attention to your physical health

Exercise is often regarded as an effective antidepressant. Draft an exercise routine that you dutifully follow. Also avoid every form of self-medication and consider making changes to your diet.

·         Consider working with a professional

Employing a professional’s counseling, therapy or coaching services is beneficial toward healing betrayal trauma. They can provide you with healthy coping skills and the best possible means for dealing with emotional pain to help you successfully move to the next phase of your life.

In a situation where you are working with your partner to heal from the betrayal trauma, seeking help from support groups or professionals can be beneficial. However, if you feel trauma supersedes the urge to stay in the relationship, you can still find healing and recovery. Most importantly, recovering from this experience requires you to be willing and ready to put in the effort to heal. The road to recovery is never easy, but with guidance and support you will be able to leave behind the trauma and fully recovery from the painful experience.