FIVE REASONS YOU PREFER PORN TO SEX WITH YOUR PARTNER

Consistently choosing porn over sex takes a toll on your romance.

Of course, this concern can be complicated and nuanced. Many individuals relate to the experience of choosing masturbation over sex, atleast on occasion. But constantly choosing porn over intimacy run the risk of ruining intimate relationships. Here are some of the more common explanations for this sexual challenge:

1.      Sex with your partner isn’t that exciting. Maybe your partner isn’t an enthusiastic lover and you don’t feel particularly desired. Or perhaps sex has become so routine that is predictable and boring.

2.      It’s easier for you to orgasm when you are flying solo. Many individuals find this to be the case. This is because you can control the stimulation – you know exactly how and when to touch yourself to create the most intense experience. Sometimes people think it’s the porn that makes masturbation so exciting. That could be, but often porn is just a vehicle for your mental focus, and it’s your touch that’s key.

3.      You feel disconnected from your partner emotionally. Maybe you feel disrespected or rejected by them, but you aren’t talking with them about it. It’s very difficult to be intimate with someone when uncomfortable emotions separate you.

4.      You have sexual concerns and feel anxious or ashamed during partnered sex. As a result, you feel such intense performance anxiety that it becomes challenging for you to feel pleasure during sex.

5.      You like something kinky that you are either too embarrassed to share with your partner, or you’ve tried to share it and your partner isn’t receptive.

Preferring masturbation over partnered sex is likely to have a negative impact on your intimate relationships over time.  If this is something that you would like to address, sexual addiction therapy may be beneficial.